when god shows up in a marriage

The Bible describes marriage in many ways however it only prescribes marriage in one. According to the bible, marriage is a provision that God gives out of his loving kindness to those he is pleased with. Marriage is a reflection of God and is designed to bless the couple.

When God Shows Up in a Marriage

Something special happens when a couple avails itself of the ways that God has set before them. Obedience to God in marriage opens up possibilities that were not available in any other way. The fruits of the holy spirit are present: joy, patience, kindness, long-suffering, goodness, mercy, faithfulness, self-control, and love. When these fruits are present, you can feel safe and walk freely in your marriage to one another.

Listening for Good

One of the keys to a healthy marriage is listening. But we ought not to let our understanding of listening be confined to what we hear with our ears. Yes, of course, that’s a big part of it. But listening with our ears and hearing what our spouse is saying and even what we are saying to them is just part of what listening means.

Other kinds of listening that we should do involve nonverbal and less obvious types such as body language and recognizing situations. This is sometimes even more important than verbal communication. Noticing what is not said and habits that are unusual can be key and telling signals for how someone is feeling.

Leaving Room for God

When we think that we have all of the answers the danger is that we don’t leave enough room for someone to offer us a different perspective. This is especially true in a marriage. We must be open to someone telling us when we may not have the best viewpoint to come to a conclusion or to help us see things differently. This is really what marriage is all about. We acknowledge that it’s good to join as a life partner with someone to offer us wisdom, guidance, and grace.

This is stating the obvious, but to have a relationship or marriage that honors God and our spouse, we will need to remember, better yet remind ourselves, that we don’t have all of the answers and that we need to learn from others. Not only are we more approachable to one another when we humble ourselves and remember that we don’t know everything, we allow ourselves to learn more just by understanding that in every area we all have something to learn.

Leaving room for God means that we are committed to our prayer and devotional life. We set the atmosphere for sharing, sacrifice, and most importantly love. We allow God to direct us in the way that we should go and we always consider the fact that we may be wrong about our opinion. But we also have the gift of depending on the unchanging word of God to reference so that we are aware of what we say and do.

When we leave room for God in our marriage, we acknowledge that it belongs to God. The whole thing. We are stewards of what God gives us through his abundant heart and riches in glory. We don’t really lack anything in our marriage when we allow God to be fully present and center. We don’t lose anything because God makes up for anything that is lost or missing. All we need to do is to listen to him and follow his instruction and he will order our steps within our marriage.

This is good news because as he said, he will never leave us nor forsake us.